‘Traverse Talks’ Episode 10: Ryka Aoki On Culture, Transphobia And Giving It Your Best
In this episode of Traverse Talks with Sueann Ramella, author Ryka Aoki shares how growing up in the U.S., she has a hard time seeing what happens on a societal level, but still wants it to be better, as well as her personal experiences as a transgender woman. Ramella and Aoki talk about her experiences with people’s reasoning for their hatred, exploring nuance, and sharing personal stories. Aoki is a poet, author and winner of the Academy of American Poets award.
Listen to her episode below or stream Traverse Talks with Sueann Ramella, wherever you get your podcasts.
Ryka’s Unique Love Of Country:
Ryka’s Link Between Transphobia And Insecurity:
Sueann: Why do you think there’s so much anger, and I know earlier you mentioned because we become things we don’t like, is that related to the anger toward trans women and the violence?
Ryka: Well, what ends up happening is, you know, like when somebody says something transphobic, is this really about me? You know, they don’t even know me. I think it’s saying something about them. That my existence causes them to question themselves or I might represent something that may be somebody assigned male might never want to be, because that would mean they would lose the respect of their family, of their friends. And, if they told me that, I’d say, you think correctly. I’ve lost a lot. But there’s this fear. The fear that somehow I cheated the system that I got away with it. That all of these things are holding me back, (but) now I can be free. I’ve run into this with a couple of students.
Ryka: You know, because (they say) I’ve got this to live up to, and this to live up to, and this to live up to. I ran into this sometimes, you know, and you think, wow, I so was not thinking about you when I started taking hormones, you know, but what ends up happening is you realize that there’s all this fear. It’s this fear that’s happening to the women who are in Congress, it’s happening with Kamala Harris, where somehow you must’ve cheated to get to where you are. This fear that somehow the reason you’re this way was somehow “I” have failed; “I” being the person who’s perpetuating the hate.
Sueann: This is a lot of insecurity.
Ryka: A lot of insecurity. And tell me something, how on earth are they supposed to be secure? We live in a country with no universal healthcare. We live in a country where, you know, there are just so many ways to F up. So, you know, when we start talking about people being insecure, I’ll turn that around. How on earth are they supposed to be secure?
Sueann: Oh, amen. Oh my gosh.
Ryka: If they bash me, then the bashing becomes my problem. But then we can make rules to stop hate crimes. We can increase the penalties, which are all good, by the way, you know, we can make it illegal for discrimination in the workplace, all of which is good. All of which is necessary. That all address me getting hurt by walking down the street. But it doesn’t address the underlying fear in this country. And we do need more security. You know, the weirdest thing is a lot of times the people who are nicest and most open-minded to trans people are the ones with the least to lose.
Sueann: Can you explain that a little more?
Ryka: Sure. When I was going to grad school, you know, it’s like professors with tenure, they don’t care. They go, that’s really neat.
Sueann: I see.
Ryka: Because my existence has nothing to do with their-
Sueann: Gain or…
Ryka: Continued gain or loss or validity.
Sueann: Reputation, or.
Ryka: But when it comes to people who are worried about that and for good reason, that’s where we run into trouble. And that’s why transphobia is not a white thing. It’s not a black thing. It’s not an Asian thing. It’s not a Brown thing. It’s everybody who feels our presence is offensive to them because it reminds them maybe of what they’ve lost to, what they could be and all of these things. We’re uncomfortable. Our presence makes people uncomfortable.
Sueann: Ryka, what is it like to have such a freaking heavy burden of being this symbol for people to work out their emotional insecurities and fear with?
Ryka: Well, I think that one thing is that I have been really blessed to be a writer. It allows me to feel that no matter what is happening, I can use it to teach. It’s not just that I’m a writer. I tend to process the world, not in an adversarial way, and think, what can I teach the world? What can I learn from the world?
Sueann: Does that exhaust you?
Ryka: Yes. But it’s better than the exhaustion that I would feel by feeling afraid and hating all the time. The world’s an exhausting place. Life is exhausting right now. And if you’re exhausted, I feel for you. And I honor that exhaustion.
*Question and responses were edited for length and clarity.
‘Traverse Talks’ Episode 14: Chigozie Obioma On Finding Differences And Similarities Between Cultures
In this episode of Traverse Talks with Sueann Ramella, author Chigozie Obioma talks about how his time in Cyprus for school and growing up in Nigeria shaped his work, the types of racism he has experienced in his travels and the meaning behind his name. Continue Reading ‘Traverse Talks’ Episode 14: Chigozie Obioma On Finding Differences And Similarities Between Cultures
Author Christine Hemp talks about her latest book, a memoir “Wild Ride Home,” finding red flags in relationships, taking care of aging parents and always keeping your true north. She is an author, poet, musician, speaker and teacher. Continue Reading ‘Traverse Talks’ Episode 13: Christine Hemp On Finding Your True North
‘Traverse Talks’ Episode 12: Becky Albertalli & Scott Leadingham On Literature Helping Form Identity
In this unique episode of “Traverse Talks with Sueann Ramella,” NWPB’s Scott Leadingham interviews author Becky Albertalli. The two talk about identity, representation of LGBTQIA+ books in school libraries, and how people come out and present themselves to the world. Continue Reading ‘Traverse Talks’ Episode 12: Becky Albertalli & Scott Leadingham On Literature Helping Form Identity